I’ve been to one of her presentations and highly suggest seeing her speak if you’ll be in NY on June 5th.
Project Unbreakable is excited to announce that we are partnering with several organizations for a special event in June! Laura van Dernoot Lipsky, founder of the Trauma Stewardship Institute and author of Trauma Stewardship, will host a day long event in New York City on June 5th, 2013. Laura, a longtime trauma worker, uses a mix of personal insight, research, personal stories, and countless New Yorker cartoons to examine the ways working & witnessing trauma can affect us.
Instead of the usual rate of $90, we are offering a partner rate of $60 from now until the date of the event. To sign up, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org. This day is open to anyone who bears witness - social workers, foster parents, nurses, feminist advocates, environmentalists, domestic violence/child abuse shelter volunteers, firefighters, etc. (Or anyone planning on going into any of these fields.)
We at Project Unbreakable are extremely passionate about Laura’s work; in order to take care of others, we need to learn how to take care of ourselves first.
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I wanted to post the whole image on Tumblr underneath a jump, but apparently there’s no way to do that without making it super small? Eh, whatever.
If you’re a feminist who understands the (apparently not) radical concept that women can have penises and men can have vaginas (and that there are people with either or both of those who may very well identify as neither a man nor a woman), would you mind reblogging this? I could really use a little faith in humanity being restored right about now.
We tell people they are “strong” when we are uncomfortable with their pain and would prefer that they shut up and not bother us with it. To say “but you are strong” is telling someone “I don’t think you should feel that way,” and it’s not a compliment. I don’t think that strength means being invulnerable, or pretending that you are. The belief that silence and stoicism are inherently good qualities is how you end up dressed up like a bat punching criminals in an alley – it’s not a good road to emotional health.
Be sad. Be angry. Let your heart break – in the diner, on someone’s futon, in the park, on the way to the zoo, at brunch, over drinks, in the therapist’s office, on the bus – Wherever it breaks, let it break all the way open, let it run out and down and spread out in a soggy puddle at your feet. Say, “I’m sorry, I can’t listen to you today, my heart is broken. Will you sit with me a while and I’ll tell you about it?“
Say, “I can’t take care of you today, but you can take care of me, and maybe tomorrow I will take care of you, and we can trade off like that for a while, okay?”
Say, “I love you, and I love that you think I’m strong, but I don’t feel like being strong today. I feel like being angry and crazy and sad. Can we go to the movies or just sit here quietly or take a walk or talk about it or not talk about it?“
Your friends may get scared when you do this. If you, the “strong” one can break, what does that say about them? That’s why they push back at you and try to remind you of your strength, when what you need is for them to stand by you in your pain and weakness. They don’t have to solve that pain, they just have to bear witness to it. Maybe they don’t know how – a lot of people don’t know what to do in the face of other people’s pain. They want to fix everything, and if they can’t fix it they feel inadequate. As the “strong” one you can help them out with this by saying “You don’t have to fix it. You don’t have to do anything. Just be with me, and listen, and love me, and I’ll love you back. That’s all I need – to know that you love me, even when I’m sad and scared and don’t know what to do next.”–
I needed this today.
Me too, me too. Actually I think I’ve needed this for the past year or so.
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My class today [TW: rape culture]
I am drawing something and it is 900% an excuse to draw graffiti tentacles on a wall.
Tarter Sauce Crossing the Alps
Our fearless leader Tarter Sauce “Grumpy Cat” Bonaparte directing the cats of the world to face the dog menace.
Reblogging to both because the world needs to see this piece of amazing. XD